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What would you do if you knew you *would* fail?

There’s a motivational question people ask: What would you attempt if you knew you could not fail? It’s a good question for getting over the hurdle of fear of failure.

For me, it can kick me into action. Once I’m in action, though, my immediate instinct is to do what makes the most sense to reach the goal.

But it seems to me that it isn’t failure we’re afraid of, it’s uncertainty. So I tried asking, “What would I do if I had to do something, but knew I would fail anyway?” (Eliminate the uncertainty, but make it a guarantee of failure rather than a guarantee of success.)

Much to my surprise, my approach became a game. It freed my thinking in a way that the other question did not, and I began coming up with very “out-of-the-box” ideas.

(This reminds me of the essay The Wisdom of No Escape, by Buddhist nun Pema Chodron.)

What’s your experience? Does the question “What would you do if you knew you would fail?” do anything for you?

What issues do you have focusing on your most important life goals?

@chrisbrogan was asking how to focus on life goals. Is this an issue you have, too? How come? What gets in the way?

It seems to me two important aspects to focusing your life on your goals are:

  1. Know what your goals are.
  2. Say ‘No’ to time uses that aren’t aligned with those goals.

What are your obstacles? How have you overcome them? (Or if not, what’s gone wrong?)

How does the concept of failure serve you?

In a rather extensive twitter thread, we’ve been discussing how “failure” serves us. The consensus seems to be: failure is a good thing if we learn from it. So if it’s a good thing, why do we fear it? (Since after all, we can always elect to learn from it.)

  • @candees: we’re afraid of others’ perceptions of us when we fail.
  • @harrowdrive: we get conditioned to fear failure as kids.
  • @starshyne: we equate project failure with failure as a person
  • @smsaxon: we think failure will be permanent
  • @erebor (Ryan Waldron): we don’t know the cost beforehand, so we fear the cost will be too high.
  • @cathystucker: failure is embarassing

When others fail

We’re pretty much not as judgmental as we fear others will be.